Pursuing
a degree in media, specifically Public Relations, nothing much surprises me
about people nowadays; saying that, this surprised me. An American pastor,
Bryan Fischer, is arguing that children from same-sex households should be
kidnapped and an underground railroad set up to “free them.” Fischer likened
this practice to being needed as it was to “freeing slaves.”
I
resisted the urge to whack my head off my desk a few times and read through the
article to find out as much information as possible. Fischer is a spokesperson
for the American Family Association (the same one that Chick-Fil-A*** CEO Dan
Cathy stated he supported,) where he is their director of Issue Management.
Fischer tweeted, “we need an underground railroad to deliver innocent children.”
Where
does this obviously well thought argument come from? Robert Oscar Lopez apparently
posted on a right-wing website blaming growing up in a same-sex household the
reason for his lack of social skills, trouble fitting in at work and making it
difficult for him to have a relationship with a woman. I’m going to bite my
tongue here and say that I highly doubt that that’s the reason he’s decided he’s
so flawed as a human being. Yes, upbringing does play a part in the way you are
as an adult, but the fact that he’s blaming his moms for the reason he is
awkward is absurd. There’s no mention of loving them or thanking for them for
raising him, it’s “you’re gay, you made me weird.”
My
views on marriage are very simple: you don’t want gay marriage, don’t get gay
married. I am straight; I want to have a traditional wedding in a church. Just
because I am making the personal decision to marry a man does not mean that I
achieve this divine right to dictate how the rest of the world will get
married! It bothers me that people want to inject themselves into the personal
lives of everyone else as if we’re all in an episode of Big Brother. Life is
reality, not reality TV. I respect that
Mr. Fischer has the right to have an opinion about marriage and how he thinks
that upbringing affects children, but when you’re talking about “saving”
innocent children as if they’re shackled in a basement in a same-sex couples
house, that’s ridiculous. Where there is one man blaming his family structure
for his social awkwardness there are millions of other men and women who say it
has made them stronger.
By the
very statistics of “traditional” marriage you can attest it can be just as
harmful to a child. Most marriages end in divorce, that’s a fact. I’m not
saying that marriage between a man and a woman is flawed for that reason but
you can’t look at “traditional” marriage as this completely flawless sentient being,
it never has been. Marriages are incorporate individuals, who are just that,
individual. The negatives that are being created is the shame that is being
dumped on same-sex family children by these extreme religious groups, stating
they’re “doing it for their own good.” You can’t teach a child to hate his/her
parent because their lifestyle is different than yours, nor should you shame
them into a corner because that’s how they’re growing up. Children are
impressionable, as kids we just want to fit in; whether it’s having the newest
toys or wearing the coolest clothes; we want acceptance. Creating these ignorant
little boxes where “family” needs to fit in corrupts the very nature of a
family.
It
shouldn’t need to be this overstated but every person has the right to the lifestyle
they choose. Mr. Fischer has the right to think marriage is between a man and a
woman only just as much as I have to the right to think people can marry who
they want. A family is a complex being, it doesn’t live and breathe in black
and white; family is whatever you feel it is. Hold onto your beliefs and keep
them close, but don’t be so ignorant as to ram them down the throats of anyone
who thinks a little differently.
Article and quotes were taken from the Sun News article “US
pastor advocates abducting children from gay homes” by QMI Agency
Bryan Fischer’s Twitter can be found here:
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