I’m going
to open up a can of worms – I know it. I don’t know how else to begin this post
other by saying some of you will be offended, some of you will think I’m wrong
and some of you will think I’m disgusting for holding this opinion. And that’s
fine. You are entitled to your opinion as much as I’m entitled to mine.
Today’s
blog post is about an overwhelming topic in the media because of the United States’
court proceedings – gay marriage/marriage equality.
So as most
of you know Prop 8 was brought before the court yesterday in a case that moves
to legalize gay marriage (henceforth referred to as marriage, gettin’ hitched,
tyin the knot or shackling oneself to the old ball and chain) which will be
announced towards the end of June. Now this movement in government is having a
profound effect in not only the US but in Canada as well. So many people that I
know (and thankfully so) are large supporters of marriage, regardless of
religion – I also know people who don’t agree with it personally but have the
common decency to not allow their opinions to rule someone else’s life.
I think the
entirety of having ONE religion dictate who and who cannot be married to be incredibly
flawed. I realize that at the time that these laws were created we were living
in a largely different era. This law made sense when women were considered subordinate
to men and skin colour dictated your worth. So it is beyond me that in this day
and age when women have assumed equal status to men (for the most part – but that’s
a whole different can of worms) and race does not mean you’re worthless that
sexuality dictates right to marriage.
I think my
biggest issue with this entire argument is that we’re setting ourselves up to
never have peace by being for and against. If you think about it, the issue of
marriage, outside of religion, is just personal politics. We’re not arguing
that all marriages be had in a religious church – just that they be recognized
as a legal union by the government. I wonder then, if there is no religious
component other than the personal beliefs of the individuals against it, why is
it a religious issue? This way of getting married is the same way that those
who are not married in a religious ceremony get hitched, so does that mean that
their union is not legally binding as well? Why stop discriminating there? What
about the transgendered, those with no gender? What about those who are not
married under “God” in the traditional sense?
It bothers
me so incredibly much that someone’s personal religion – a choice they made
(you can chose to be a Catholic, Christian, Buddhist) trumps someone’s choice
of who they marry even outside of the religious ceremony. This assumes that every single human being
falls under the same religious belief as you and that’s just not true. Religious
diversity is huge and while it’s an intensely personal commitment with a higher
power it has given way to the right to be intolerant to others. I cannot
contest your relationship with your higher power because that is discrimination, however you can impose your relationship
with a higher power on me and that is protecting the sanctity of marriage for
everyone? How can someone not see the
incredible flaw in that logic?
This way of
thinking always excludes someone and always leaves people in the wrong. Everyone
has the right to choose how they live and as much as I may not agree with the
way someone lives their life I respect they have the right to make their own
choices. I don’t think people realize that respecting someone’s right to make a
commitment to someone for their lives does not have to go against your
religious beliefs. You can still believe that marriage should be between a man
and a woman based on your religion AND respect someone’s ability to have the
same LEGAL rights in a union.
Why? How?
Whaaaaaat?
They are not getting married under the same
conditions as you. Simple as that.
It’s time
that people stop being personally offended when something “threatens their
religion”. Your religion is your personal commitment with your higher power –
not everyone else’s. Don’t deny someone’s legal rights outside of
religion in an attempt protect what you deem is good.
